Singleness

Singleness. Ugh. That one word that was enough to make me cringe in the years past has now become a blessing.

I remember being in middle school, and someone asking me if I was single. I lamely replied, "Single like a slice of cheese!" In high school, when asked the same question, I embarrassedly said, "yeah." Now that I am a 22 year old, college graduate (in 14 days!) this single season has now all of a sudden become no joke. Eighty percent of my friends are either married, with kids, or in a serious relationship. I'm not going to lie, this is not how I planned my life to be at all. I thought I was going to 21 and married, but God thought otherwise. And that is totally cool.

I am frustrated at myself bowing my head in shame or awkwardly laughing anytime someone asked me if there was a man in my life. The thing is that we are so much more than a relationship status. I am frustrated that I spent too much time and energy planning out of wedding, talking to no good guys, or just simply wasting my time because I thought I would be whole if I could somehow find my husband.

Ladies, we're not even supposed to be looking for our husband!
He'll find us in God's perfect timing.

The truth is in the Christian woman community, I find us talking more about our Boaz arriving or our Adam waking up than we do about Jesus. Don't get me wrong, it is totally cool to talk about these things, but not when they become all we talk about. I am talking to myself here, when I say, I yearned more my man entering my life than I did Jesus. God is not going to bless you with anything you make an idol of. -Heather Lindsey.
 
I'm writing this blog because I've seen it all too much. Too much emphasis on being a good wife and not on being a good Christian. We're here to serve Christ, then our husbands, then our children. The thing is that I got it mixed up for years, and I see it now in so many other young women and it hurts my heart.

*Drops mic*

I'll explain more in my next blog. Stay tuned for part 2!

Peace & Love