Content in Singleness (part 2)

Okay, so, my rambling in my previous blog serves as a precursor to what I want to discuss in this blog here. I was the girl who thought more about getting married than serving Christ (and this was me like last year), and now, God has changed my heart. I am so content in Christ. When I heard people talk about God being enough, I was like yeah right. But, now, I totally get it. Jesus gave me a visual for it, and I hope to clearly write it out for you :)

Okay, so picture your favorite buffet. I'll choose Golden Corral. Now, this metaphor compares God to the main course and a husband to the dessert. When you eat a huge meal, you are so full and not thinking of consuming another bite.  When you are truly full on God, he will be enough. You're so set on your life in Christ that it's hard to think of consuming another "bite." However, if you're like me, just because you're stuffed doesn't mean you won't think of dessert. Yes, you'll think about it (dessert/men), but you have to make sure you're ready to consume more, otherwise you'll throw up everything and make a huge mess. If you are not ready for your dessert, and you eat more anyways you'll end up worse than if you would have just waited patiently for your time to come. If we're not ready for a relationship and get up for our "dessert" anyways, then a huge mess will ensue.

 

Now, a man is like a dessert, but it's not something to substitute  for the real meal. Jesus is the real deal, the main course, the meat. Jesus is all you need, just how you need your substantive meals every day. A dessert (man) is nice, but it's not everything and something you necessarily need.

There is a reason we should eat our meat before our cookies. Our meals provide our nutrition to get through our days, and dessert provides a boost. We need to feed on Christ first. When he says it's time, then he'll send you may send you  a little dessert. :) So don't get discouraged when you see all your friends with brownies or cheesecake, focus on that steak in front of you now. Enjoy your singlehood, because hopefully it won't last forever!

Don't get me wrong here, there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship. 1 Corinthians 7 gives an awesome view of both the married and single Christian. But, people, when you're single you are free to do more for Christ. 1 Corn 7:34 says, "An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit." So while you're waiting on your (dessert) spouse to arrive, act like a waitress and serve. Be about the Lord's business and enjoy this season for there is a time for everything. (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8)

Andddd, remember, just because you're single doesn't mean you're being punished or that there is something wrong with you. I remember doing small things in church like setting up the microphones, and this guy would always tell me, "You're next for a relationship!" And well, I wasn't, I wasn't even 5th. But God knows the heart, and when you work, do it for the Lord not for a particular blessing.

is to serve Christ.

Love you all.

Singleness

Singleness. Ugh. That one word that was enough to make me cringe in the years past has now become a blessing.

I remember being in middle school, and someone asking me if I was single. I lamely replied, "Single like a slice of cheese!" In high school, when asked the same question, I embarrassedly said, "yeah." Now that I am a 22 year old, college graduate (in 14 days!) this single season has now all of a sudden become no joke. Eighty percent of my friends are either married, with kids, or in a serious relationship. I'm not going to lie, this is not how I planned my life to be at all. I thought I was going to 21 and married, but God thought otherwise. And that is totally cool.

I am frustrated at myself bowing my head in shame or awkwardly laughing anytime someone asked me if there was a man in my life. The thing is that we are so much more than a relationship status. I am frustrated that I spent too much time and energy planning out of wedding, talking to no good guys, or just simply wasting my time because I thought I would be whole if I could somehow find my husband.

Ladies, we're not even supposed to be looking for our husband!
He'll find us in God's perfect timing.

The truth is in the Christian woman community, I find us talking more about our Boaz arriving or our Adam waking up than we do about Jesus. Don't get me wrong, it is totally cool to talk about these things, but not when they become all we talk about. I am talking to myself here, when I say, I yearned more my man entering my life than I did Jesus. God is not going to bless you with anything you make an idol of. -Heather Lindsey.
 
I'm writing this blog because I've seen it all too much. Too much emphasis on being a good wife and not on being a good Christian. We're here to serve Christ, then our husbands, then our children. The thing is that I got it mixed up for years, and I see it now in so many other young women and it hurts my heart.

*Drops mic*

I'll explain more in my next blog. Stay tuned for part 2!

Peace & Love